Warning: This is not going to be perfect.

As much as I’d rather not start this way, I must first ask for your understanding and forgiveness. I’m not going to do this perfectly. I will make mistakes. These are huge risks for a recovering perfectionist like me. I promise that I will do it completely from my heart though.


I was raised to believe that there is a hierarchy of people. That those who look different from me or have different beliefs and values were either better than me or worse than me. It wasn’t always...

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6 Easy Ways to Say No

Two of most common issues I help my coaching clients with are how to have good boundaries and how to say "no." These struggles are so pervasive that I want to share my tips with you too!


Saying “yes” is so ingrained in our culture that it’s easy to overwhelm our own schedules with other people’s priorities. Of course, there are plenty of good reasons that we say “yes.” We want people to like us, we want to be nice, we want others to be able to...

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Is soy bad for you?

What about soy? Aren't you concerned about phytoestrogens in soy?

These are two of the many questions I often hear from people when they learn that I'm vegan. So allow me to put the soy fear to rest. The common fear is that soy has a negative effect on hormones.

Is soy a requirement for the vegan diet?
It's a myth that when we adopt a vegan lifestyle, we get a congratulatory kitchen stocked with soy products. There is no vegan membership requirement of a heavy dependence upon soy. Believe it...

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The call I never wanted to receive...

Our culture has a distorted relationship with pain, death, and grief. We’re taught to fear it, push it away, and put it in a box “over there” for someone else to deal with.

Refusal to accept that life includes discomfort, death, and grief is one of the primary roots of ageism (wrinkles remind us that one day we’ll die), racism/otherism (someone who’s different might kill us), anti-veganism (vegans acknowledge that animals have to die for people to consume their...

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Are you getting these two essential vitamins?

One of my coaching clients recently asked about the common misconception that only vegans are susceptible to a deficiency in vitamins like B12 and D. Right after that session, no fewer than three friends asked me the same question! It must be in the air, so I'll share it with you too.

The truth is that with depleted soils and indoor lifestyles, pretty much everyone needs to supplement with these two essential vitamins.

Vitamin B12
According to Brenda Davis and Vesanto Melina,...

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Do you have enough time for self-care?

I still remember the last time I apologized for taking too long to return a friend's call, bemoaning my “ridiculously busy schedule” (formerly one of my favorite phrases). He stopped me and said rather matter-of-factly, “It’s not that you didn’t have the time. Calling me back just wasn’t a priority for you.” 

All at once, I felt guilty, ashamed, and relieved.

It was true. He wasn’t my priority. And it wasn’t personal.

We all know that...

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Set yourself free with a new perspective

Have you ever thought there was something wrong with you or that you're somehow broken?

I have. And for most of my life, I believed it. That was until several years ago when my teacher gave me a whole new perspective.

She said that culturally, we swim in polluted waters, and we have been conditioned by the culture to see the cause as ourselves or someone else.

But when a fish who is swimming in polluted waters gets sick, we don't first say, "Oh that fish, there's really something wrong with...

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Want more harmony? Start in the bathroom!

There's a big problem lurking in one of our most intimate rooms and it’s depriving many couples of harmony. Once and for all, it's time to put to rest the “Great Toilet Paper Direction Debate.”

Years ago, a couple shared with me that this was one of their biggest and most long-standing fights. To me, the answer was so obvious that I couldn’t believe my ears. Since then, I’ve discovered that toilet paper direction is so controversial that there are a shocking...

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The Video Every Mother Needs to See

Mother's Day is this Sunday and I want to recognize all the wonderful mothers out there. Whether your babies are humans or have fur, feathers, or scales, you deserve celebration.

I also want to acknowledge all the mothers who will never get to be with their babies, including mama cows entangled in the dairy industry whose babies are taken away shortly after birth so that humans can consume their milk.

If you are a mother or you have or have had one, this very personal video of my...

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From Disconnect to Alignment

Today, I have a very special video for you. It's one of the creations I'm most proud of. I hope you’ll watch it to see just how much power you really have—multiple times every day.

As children, we're taught that there are "dairy cows" that magically and automatically have milk—even that we're doing cows a favor by milking them. They don't, and we're not.

Of course, none of us would ever want to intentionally harm an animal. But what if you discovered that even though you were...

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