As a chronic over-thinker, I notice that sometimes I can feel stressed out before I've even begun to take action, even if it's no action. I think it stems from something called FOMO, or Fear Of Missing Out. It's a plague in our culture and most of us have it. This is why I'm such a fan of "less."
Opportunities to feel FOMO abound. Just today, a dear friend asked me if I could do a project that could begin a relationship with a company that might eventually hire me as a wellness coach for their employees. This is an area of my coaching practice that I'm growing, so even though I already had too much on my plate, I didn't say no right away.
Thankfully, I've learned that sometimes all I need to do is buy time. The truth was that I needed to get some other things off my plate before I even knew if I had time to take on something else, so that's what I said. After about an hour, I realized that there was no way I could say yes without creating undue stress in my life.
It's tricky to know when to say yes and when to say no. Here's the thing, when we say no to overwhelm, we say yes to peace. And even though it's not always easy to say no to the abundance of choice the culture presents, it's pretty much always worth putting our own sanity first.
Sometimes, all we need is a little breathing space to muster the courage to say no to FOMO.
It's helpful to develop practices that nurture us so that in the heat of the moment, we can remember that FOMO is an illusion and that when we think less, we make space to live more.
Two things that anchor me are daily meditation and dancing.
How about you? Do you ever find yourself overthinking or unsure of what to say yes to and what to say no to?
I'd love to know what you do to grounded and centered, or if that's an area you're still figuring out. I hope you'll click reply and let me know!
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